Healthily Ever After | A guest post from Emilee Wilson of Fierce Fox Coaching
Emilee from Fierce Fox Coaching wanted to use her decade of experience as a health coach to explain why health is important for a healthy marriage. She is here to educate, support, encourage, and provide the tools necessary so that you too can live a healthy, high-quality life full of strength, courage, and delicious food.
Congratulations! You just embarked on a journey of a lifetime with the person of your dreams.
You wore the gorgeous dress, you had the perfect flowers, the DJ played your favorite jams to dance the night away with the people who mean the most to you.
Your bridal party even managed not to get too, too crazy with the open bar (well, except your husband’s college friend who never did get the memo that an open bar is not a challenge).
But now that the wedding is over it is time to start thinking about that really important word – lifetime.
You want a lifetime full of laughter, love, and let’s be honest – when we say “In sickness and in health.” we’re really rooting more for the health of the person we love and for ourselves.
Living Healthily Ever After can ensure your marriage is a fairy tale and not a badly written Goosebumps story. There’s a lot more that comes out of living life as a healthy couple aside from just looking great (but hey, that’s a pretty great added bonus). There’s nothing better than getting to have a high-quality life of feeling great, looking great, and creating a very special bond over doing it together with someone you just can’t imagine your life without.
I’d like to share with you just how true this sentiment holds for couples who pursue a healthy lifestyle together, how to make it possible for any couple to do it, and the importance to your marriage of taking care of yourself as an individual.
A COUPLE WHO GETS HEALTHY TOGETHER STAY TOGETHER
There are endless reasons behind the advantages of having not just an emotionally but also physically healthy lifestyle with your special someone. I want to share some of the most meaningful ones that can bring true joy and endless romance to your marriage so that the “honeymoon stage” doesn’t just have to be a stage!
Your Emotional Bond Will Deepen.
Having a goal and built-in accountability partner allows you to have something very significant in common which creates a stronger emotional bond. You’ll have something to continuously talk about, get excited about, and amp each other up about. A little friendly competition can keep the flirting alive and this leaves the door open for some chances for the winner to win a massage or date night! Psychologists have found that when you practice nonverbal mimicry or coordinating your actions with your partners, it helps you feel more emotionally connected.
Your Life In The Bedroom Benefits
Exercise, nutrition, mental health, and overall health all play a massive role in your libido. Couples not only increase and maintain their attraction from feeling confident in themselves but also having a partner who feels confident as well. If you want to keep the crickets out of your bedroom then get cooking in the kitchen and hitting the gym! These activities increase the feel-good hormones such as endorphins, dopamine, and oxytocin while alleviating things such as stress and anxiety.
You Spend Quality Time Together
Life gets crazy, I’m sure you know! Between work, maybe children one day, and who knows what else you guys have up in the air every day it’s easy to get caught up in the responsibilities and the grind. If you are trying to reach a goal or just maintain your healthy lifestyle together it is something that will bring you together every day. Instead of becoming just another thing on the list of things to do it is time that you can look forward to spending together. During this time you will see your spouse reaching their own goals and growing which will create a quality of your relationship you’ve not had before.
HOW TO MAKE HEALTHY FIT INTO YOUR MARRIAGE EASILY
“Easy” isn’t exactly the word that comes to mind when we think of marriage but the truth is being healthy together can make that happen! Now that we’ve touched on some of the most important reasons that couples should try to live a healthy lifestyle let’s talk about how to make it happen.
- Pick a Lifestyle That You’re Both Excited About.
This will be one of the first and most important lessons of how to make it a lifetime of happiness together, learning what the other person likes and blending it with what you also like. If you don’t agree on what to have for dinner or what physical activity you enjoy, no biggie! Find the things you can agree on and be excited about then let the other individual follow what they need to in order to stick with it. At the end of the day, the most important thing is to support each other on whatever “healthy” means to them.
2. Find Friends With Similar Lifestyle Goals
Studies have shown that couples who hang out with other couples are happier and argue less. Something that can help you stay on track together as a couple is to have friends who have similar goals. That way you can really be inspired to continue on your healthy path and don’t just have one person as your cheerleader but a group of people. It feels a lot more simple to stick with a plan when you don’t feel the pressure to constantly stray away from it.
3. Make Your Healthy Habits A Priority Together
Meal prep Sunday? Motivation Monday? Even with your busy schedules find where you can make your healthy habits a priority. Doing these as rituals together can make life a lot more easy and organized than just constantly flying by the seat of your pants. Pick your rituals that are going to happen weekly to take out any of the guesswork and overwhelm. You’ll be surprised how great of an impact this has on your schedule overall.
YOUR MARRIAGE BENEFITS FROM YOU TAKING CARE OF YOURSELF
You may be reading through this and thinking, “Well, this sounds amazing to me but I could NEVER get my spouse on board.”
And I just want you to know – that’s okay. It’s okay if you can’t be “swolemates” or the people posting gym selfies saying “couple goals.” My guess is that you married the person you married because you quite simply love them for who they are and can’t imagine living life without them.
This isn’t about trying to change someone because of all the amazing benefits. Can you broach the subject? Of course, great communication is key to a great relationship. However, if it just is not their cup of tea doesn’t mean that it can’t be yours.
Your marriage will still 100% benefit from you taking care of YOU. And that involves a lot more than just eating better and exercising.
It involves taking care of your heart, mind, body, and soul. If you have your health, a job you love, close friends who support you, an amazing relationship with yourself, and confidence that can set this world on fire well – that cup that everyone is always talking about pouring from, it will be overflowing for you.
Know this as well, even if they are not on board today doesn’t mean that one day you can’t inspire them to be. They will be watching you and everything that you gain from your own healthy lifestyle journey.
At the end of the day just know that regardless of what anyone else is doing in your life including those who you love the most and are closest to you, including the person you are taking on as your partner for life, you are worth what it takes to take care of you.
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